my mom went to a funeral yesterday. It was for the husband of her friend/colleague, and he had been touch-and-go battling cancer for a year. Even knowing that things weren’t great for a long time, and knowing what the outcome would be, sooner or later, my mom’s friend still couldn’t help saying –
“I just can’t believe it.”
last week they were making plans for his final operation, this week he’s gone. last week she came home to him, this week she doesn’t. last week she could call to check in, this week she can’t. Last week, dinners. Last week, talks about her day. Last week, helping him, asking him for advice, holding him, telling him she loves him and hearing it back.
I’m sorry guys – I know this is so sad. I don’t want to make you sad. But it is – it is so so sad, and something that we will all face ourselves, and see our friends go through.
Today, for you, things might be perfect. Meaning, the ones you love are alive and healthy, in your life daily or just a phone call away. You have the choice today to love them fully and tell them so, to forgive them, to check in with them, to cherish every small moment, to get over the little things that you find imperfect. For the ones you love who are there for you, give to you, and care for you – you have the choice to give your all, with no consequence. You have that choice – you are so lucky today!
On the flip side, if there are people in your life who don’t attempt all of the above when it comes to you, who don’t give to you what they should and could, it might be time to put your efforts into others who do, who can reciprocate the grand scope of the loving, giving, forgiving person that you (should be) striving to be. 🙂 I’m not saying shut any doors, but choose wisely where to spend your effort and soul. you know?
But! For the ones you love and love you, call them, check in with them, hold them, eat dinner with them, talk with them, ask them for advice, listen, grow, hug, love!! Do it with all your might and without fear.
Your future self will thank you for it. 🙂