“i’m terrible with names…”
“i get lost so easily…”
“i have trouble focusing in a conversation…”
“i’m not a great reader/writer/listener…”
“i’m not good at internet stuff…”
“i’m not very diligent with exercise…”
“thoughtful gifts aren’t my thing…”
“i’m bad at getting back to people…”
not. good. enough.
if you aren’t good at these things – get good at them. Read books, take classes, ask friends, study up, go to therapy, or go HERE. (okay, that link is snarky, but I find that site so clever :)) These things are important and valuable to living a complete, full, rich, successful life where you feel in control and others feel like you care about them. of course, we all have limits in certain areas, but don’t use victim-y statements as a pass to not do any heavy lifting to get better at those things.
that is, if you want to get better*.
*And live a complete, full, rich, successful life where you feel in control and others feel like you care about them. 🙂
until you have worked so hard that you can afford to hire someone to stand by your side as a name-prompter at parties, give you step-by-step directions in the passenger seat, take notes for you, write for you, read to you, train you, send gifts for you, and return calls for you, then you had better get better. 🙂
I used to say many of these things. Now, in my head, I try to replace any of these passive, un-empowered statements with reality-check phrases like:
“I don’t make _________ a priority”
“I am not good at _________ because I don’t work hard enough at it”
“i am too lazy to get better at _______”
and it brings me right back to where I belong – Earth. 🙂
What are the statements you have programmed yourself to believe, that you use as a crutch? how can you change these this week?