wait…I take it back, please – YES boundaries! 🙂
terrible horrible bad subpar challenged at setting boundaries. I have been known to say yes to most things, not because I feel obligated, but because I really want to do everything in the world, for everyone in the world, at all times.
But this obviously isn’t healthy or productive and, in the long run, doesn’t look out for myself or the person I am attempting to help.
I know a lot of people struggle with this, and I think it’s because we feel like we are going to disappoint, miss out, feel selfish, or a whole host of other things that speak to fears and feelings of unworthiness.
SO. Here is the first-of-many new rules for myself, and all of you boundary-less wanderers:
Say No (nicely!) when you don’t have time or don’t want to. It’s okay! Let the other person find someone else who is more dedicated and will be less distracted/over-exerted than you. Trust that it will all be fine, that this person will not be offended, and will ask you for help again. AND if they are offended, you shouldn’t be hanging out with them anyway. 🙂